Unique Conversation Starters To Get To Know Anyone

When you meet someone for the first time, you may find it difficult to start and continue a conversation with this person. It doesn't only happen to you. It's quite common that after the first "Hello, how are you doing?" we tend to forget what to ask next. 

We'd like to help you get past these embarrassing moments, so we've put together unique conversation starters to get to know anyone. We will start from the basics and move to the deeper ones.  

Unique conversation starters for any situation

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Let's start with one-liners that can keep the conversation going. These killer conversation openers are great for opening a conversation with someone you just met or haven't seen in a while. So, instead of asking the regular "How have you been?" or "What do you do?", try these instead. 

1. What's your story? This is a great conversation starter that opens the floor to exciting things. It tells the person that they could tell you anything about them. 

2. How do you know the host? If you met this person at an event, this is the perfect conversation starter. You can also modify it to any kind of event. For example, if you are at a work event, you could ask, "How long have you been working with this brand?"

3. What were the low-point and high-point of your day so far? If you ask an extrovert or someone who loves conversations this question, there's so much you will learn about this person. 

4. Have you been to such an event like this before? You could also ask, "Do you come to this event every month?" That is if the event is held every month. 

5. How's that artwork / drink / game? This easy conversation opener is tricky because it could get a short answer from the person, and the conversation would end right there. It needs a follow-up question, and we are going to discuss those next.  

Continue the conversation 

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Now that you have gotten their attention with any of the five killer openers, you need to keep the conversation going by getting more personal. 

6. All the drinks/artwork look so good… I'm not sure what to get! What do you recommend? This will get the other person invested in the conversation because they have to give you advice on what to order or buy. You can modify this for any event. 

7. What are you doing this weekend? You could ask this question if you are looking to hang out with them later on during the weekend because most people wouldn't want to reveal their whereabouts or plans to strangers. So, modify the question to be "What's your favorite thing to do on the weekends?" or you could try "Did you do anything fun this past weekend?"

8. Did you see the trendy topic on Twitter? If there's a trendy topic of discussion, you could talk about this or ask them what's their take on the discussion. However, take note that you may not like their answer. Try not to make this an argument; listen to them and see things from their perspective. 

9. Can you recommend places I could visit? If you're new to a town or visiting, you could ask for recommendations of places where you could eat, visit, have fun, and more. You could invite them to join you on your tour. 

10. I am going to grab a bite. Do you want to come along? This is a fantastic conversation starter because you are using this to invite them to spend more time with you. 

If you don't like asking very personal questions, you can create conversations using your surroundings and environment. Comment on the venue, guests, drinks, and food. You can also ask general questions like their favorite sports team or YouTube video. 

Move on to a deeper conversation level

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Let's say you have used the one-liners and graduated to ask more questions, and the conversation has lasted for an hour plus; you can start asking deeper questions if the person is truly interested in getting to know you. These conversation starters we are going to share can help you if you've known someone for a few hours and you want this friendship to turn into longtime friends, partners, and colleagues.  

11. What's your biggest fear? This is a deep question, but a very good one. Most times, people just want to vent or talk about what's wrong with them. 

12. What's your favorite TV show / book / movie? This would be a great conversation starter if the person spoke about a movie, book, or actor. You will get to know a lot more about a person from knowing their favorite character in a book, movie, or TV show.   

13. What's your biggest regret? This is a delicate question and should only be asked if you want to get to know someone. Talking about what they regret will help you know a person's past. Only ask this question if you are genuinely interested. 

14. What did you want to become when you grew up? Be prepared to have a lovely and fun time asking this question. You can go deeper by asking if their current job is way better than what they wanted to become. 

15. Who's your role model? When the discussion is about an inspiring person, author, boss, or even a celebrity, you could ask who their role model is and what inspires them. 

To pull off asking these types of questions, you have to be bold. If you are not bold, most of the questions may end up being on surface-level topics. Try all these questions; you may never know what you will find out.

Funny conversation starters

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If you want to make people laugh, you should try these funny conversation starters. 

16. What was the most embarrassing thing you did in college or as a kid? Going back memory lane can make people calmer and open to sharing. This question works best on dates, in groups, and at events where people are sharing. 

17. What would you do first if there's a zombie apocalypse? Funny as this may sound, you may be surprised that a lot of people have this all planned out. From their getaway to escape routes to training how to fight off the zombies. So, if you are ready to laugh and have a great time, you should try this question. 

18. What was your worst fashion disaster? Embarrassing fashion disasters happen to probably everyone. We have those outfits that we thought were great back then, but looking back, are actually very embarrassing. This question will come with a few great stories and embarrassing ones too. 

First Date conversation starters 

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Let's say you used our one-liners to get you a date; now, these questions will help you know what to talk about. It will give you an insight into the other person's life and personality. 

19. What do you think I should know about you? Sometimes it is better if the other person tells you how they see themselves or perceive themselves than if you find out yourself. This would help you know what you're signing up for. 

20. What are some random fun facts about you? You should know some random fun facts of your date. This will make the date lively and fun. 

21. What's the most significant thing anyone has ever said to you? 

22. What does a typical day look like for you?

23. Did anything surprising happen today? 

24. Tell me about your closest friends. 

25. What were you like as a kid? 

You could go the extra mile by sharing secrets or things most people don't know about you. When you share emotional and personal struggles, you promote connection. 

There are several other unique conversation starters you could use. We have a simple 100 deck card game that can take as little as 30 minutes to play.

Our Better Together card game from J & A homes explores a wide range of topics, including family, romantic relationships, past memories, dreams, secrets, and goals. It would help you start any conversation, no matter the event, and will allow you to engage in thought-provoking conversations.

Are you tired of the regular "How are you?" "How's the weather?" Any of these conversation starters will work for you. To make it even better, you can continue the conversation using the ones discussed in this article. Remember, you should have your answers ready to go. Don't make it a one-way discussion; ask them and answer yours too. Good luck! We can't wait for you to use one of these soon.